Orfi Marriage questions

Hi there,

I'm hoping some of you may be able to give me some advice about the Orfi Marriage.

Firstly, I do not follow the Muslim faith (although I do have an interest in it) so I may sometimes make a mistake in what I say or the questions I ask so please do accept my apologies in advance and understand that I mean no offence.

Mistakes will not be made through my ignorance of Islam, mearly misunderstanding.

The problem I have is that my sister in law has not long returned from a holiday in Egypt and it appears she has taken a shine to a man working out there, I gather in the hotel she was staying at.

During this holiday, she also met a woman who she is now in contact with through Facebook.

I'm deeply concerned about the advice this woman has given my sister in law.

She is going back to Egypt in two weeks with this woman and she has told her that she can get this "bit of paper" that allows her to spend time with a man in the hotel without hassle from the Police and when she comes home she can just tear it up and forget all about it.

I've looked this up and it would appear she's talking about Orfi Marriage.

This horrifies me for many reasons.

First, it seems that this type of licence is used by many older women (she's 30) seeking a younger lover (he's 23) and is often seen by the Egyptian authorities as a permit to have unmarried sex - please correct me if this is not the case, it's only from what I've read online.

It might be good enough for this awful woman she's met, but my sister in law is a good person and being labled as a sex tourist isn't quite what the family has in mind for her!!

The second thing that worries me a lot is the fact that she would have to be represented by a man when they go to obtain the lisence, usually a family member. This won't happen which means the license has no clout whatsoever and so if they do end up spending time together doing the obvious, she risks arrest and 6 months in prison.

I just think this shows a total lack of respect for local customs and the Muslim faith. I'm no prude, but this all seems very seedy.

Can anyone help me with answers to the points raised above?

Again, if I have anything wrong, please tell me.

Many thanks in advance.

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